Out with the New and in with the Old
I admit it, I’m a planner.
I love organizing, goal-setting, tracking progress, taking inventory, and delayed gratification, so, of course, I am all over making resolutions. Every year I sit down with my five-year plan, check my progress, and set new goals. But I’ve started to doubt the process.
Resolutions are well-intentioned, but they require us to constantly reassess and look for all the ways we could be better, faster, stronger, and they often end in a feeling of failure or, at least, inadequacy. Plus, probably like you, I’ve been working pretty hard all year long to be the best I can be, so looking for flaws in the system is not the way I want to be rewarded come year-end.
This year, let’s ditch our New Year’s resolutions for a more pleasant start-of-year process: re-solutions. That’s right, re-solutions. Instead of resolving to change something, we should “re-solve” our problems by keeping what we’re already doing right. Rather than looking for areas in which you fell short, start with an inventory of all the things you’ve done well this year, and resolve to keep up the good work! Make your new year’s goals (if you’re inclined to make any at all) about continuing to practice all the good habits you’ve already cultivated.
Since most of us are far better at being critical than complimentary, especially with ourselves, why not take the time this year to reflect on the successes of the past one? Maybe you didn’t lose weight, but perhaps you didn’t gain any either. Maybe you’d hoped to finish that project, but perhaps you spent some quality time with family and friends instead.
Take a moment this year to pat yourself on the back. Then, should you want to set goals for the New Year, use your past successes to guide you. Instead of looking for that great new program that will change your life, rely on the tried and true methods that you know already work for you, and use them more often. Don’t resolve to become a better you; simply re-solve and be your best self more often.
Because you’re already pretty terrific, don’t you think?